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| Fiftieth wedding anniversary of Gillian + Uwe Siemon-Netto with Father Bruno Fèvre and Pastor Matthias Pankau |
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| Renewal of Vows at altar of the 11th century Parish Church of Gurat, France, on December 1, 2012 |
A sermon by MATTHIAS PANKAU
Grace, peace and mercy to you from God our Father, and the Lord Jesus
Christ.
Dear Gillian and Uwe, dear friends,
Germans sometimes use a culinary metaphor for marriage, describing it as
a dinner menu in reverse.
The menu starts out as sweet as dessert. Then follows an enticing cheesy
part occasionally culminating in the seven-year itch; add a fresh green salad
for digestibility. Next you have the long and substantial, but hopefully
delicious, main course, the very body of any good dinner as of the marital
union. The subsequent fish course should be lighter, but can be fraught with
the danger of lethal bones. If all goes well, though, this bill of fare will
culminate in the cheerfulness of subtle hors d’oeuvres, when after mastering
decades of temptation and strife, the couple is rewarded with the facility to
go to bed at night with a loving smile, and to wake up in the morning still
holding hands.
From what you have told me, dear Gillian and Uwe, this last menu item is
the delight of your life together today. But as for the preceding dishes – boy,
did the chef foul up! Or so it seems!
The sweetness of dessert was spoiled when the Cuban Missile Crisis of
1962 forced you to cancel your wedding in London. Unwed, you rushed to Uwe’s
new posting in New York, where you were joined in holy matrimony exactly 50
years ago today in Immanuel Lutheran Church by a drunken pastor who almost
missed this appointment.
There was no chance of the cheesy part of the seven-year itch to evolve
because Uwe’s assignment to the Vietnam War separated the two of you for up to
eight months per year and included the tragedy of the loss of your child due to
a tubular pregnancy.
The pièce de résistance, the main course, consisted of more separation
caused by tumultuous upheavals resulting from Uwe’s work as a roving
international reporter.
The fish course should have been more digestible, but it included deadly
bones that could have killed off the strongest marriage: I am referring to the
loss of all your wealth, including your château next to this lovely old church,
in a Lloyd’s of London scam.
Moreover, dear Gillian, finding yourself in the role of a lowly
seminarian’s wife and suffering five years of hardship until Uwe completed his
doctorate in theology at the age of 55 surely could not have corresponded to
the life of glamour you were promised when you married this dashing foreign
correspondent half a century ago.
And yet, here you are, still together, a loving couple, blended
inseparably like Cabernet Sauvignon and Merlot in a mellow Bordeaux wine and
surrounded by faithful friends from all over the world. The outsider marvels:
how is this possible after all the two of you have been through?
Dear Uwe: I have often heard you describe yourself as a radical sinner in radical need of the radical
Gospel of Christ. You told me of your and Gillian’s deep conviction that He
never left your side even in times of tribulations of a magnitude that made
many others take their own lives.
What we are celebrating here today in awe is none other than a clearly
discernible act of divine grace, the grace to which you owe Gillian’s enduring
love and forgiveness. It was by grace, you keep saying, that you received this
gift, not your own doing, and it is out of gratitude for this unfathomable gift
of grace that you and Gillian have invited us to celebrate with you today.
Dear Gillian: I know how much you reciprocate Uwe’s conviction. We love
you for that most of all. In the last 50 years you have confirmed the Apostle
Paul’s words about Christian love in his First Letter to the Corinthians:
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy
or boast; it is not arrogant or rude… Love bears all things, believes all
things, hopes all things, endures all things… Love never ends.”
This is your enormously powerful message to an increasingly darkening
world where enduring love and faith are no longer the norm. I pray that the two
of you will have many years together in this light-hearted hors d’oeuvres phase
of your marriage to encourage the rest of us with your heart-warming example.
Thank you, dear Gillian and Uwe! And thanks be to God!
And may our almighty and merciful God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit,
bless you and keep you. Amen!
Rev. Matthias Pankau is an editor of IDEA, a Protestant publishing house in Germany, and an ordained, unpaid pastor of the Evangelical-Lutheran Church of Saxony
Father Bruno Fèvre (r) is the Catholic pastor of Montmoreau, France.
His huge parish includes Gurat and 71 other towns and villages.
